Seaside Sparkles

A girlie weekend

Published on March 13, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

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This weekend, Little Miss and I had our first ever girlie weekend as our boys went to visit Grandad. Following his illness at Christmas and the realisation that Grandad is more frail than before, we have talked lots and tried to make our visits a little easier and relaxing for him. We’ve decided that Mr S will either take just take one child to visit or we will all go up and stay in a hotel. This weekend the boys went up and Little Miss and I had a special time together at home.

Recently I’ve felt that our time together is changing, we are talking about more grown up things, music, fashion etc.. This weekend was full of sparkles, a little shopping trip, watching and singing musicals, reading together, a pampering spa, dinner in a lovely Thai restaurant, grown up activities which just felt right. This is becoming such a lovely age, even if Little Miss is always after my phone to pretend its hers, mobiles and ear piercing are becoming big topics for discussion (our agreement is a mobile when she goes to secondary school and she’s allowed her ears to be pierced this summer)

After Little Miss’ ballet class on Saturday, we drove over to our county town to enjoy a browse around the shops before finally going to see The Greatest Showman. Its been on our must see list for months and we were so pleased to finally see it, we’ve been playing the soundtrack for weeks. The atmosphere at the cinema was brilliant, it was sold out and there were a lot of mums and daughters of all ages enjoying an early mothers day treat. After the film, we chose a Thai restaurant for tea. It is a pleasure to dine out with Little Miss, she loves her food and is so adventurous and interested in food. We found a gorgeous Thai restaurant and Little Miss was a hit with the staff, they were delighted by her interest in the food and willingness to try new dishes. The food was so good and she was a very amusing dinner date.

On Sunday, I not only got a lie in as our early riser Little Man was away but also a cup of tea in bed for Mothers day, the perfect way to wake up. We had a beautifully lazy morning, a relaxing bubble bath, taking time to style hair and experiment with different looks and simply pampering ourselves. We then took a walk down town for some fresh air and came back and took the time to cook lunch together. In the afternoon, I was so pleased to show Little Miss Grease for the first time, she had seen the local secondary school’s performance during the week so it felt the right time to introduce her to one of my favourite films, needless to say I sang (cue eye rolling!) and we both danced along to the songs and laughed a lot. I had also treated us to the new Rebel Girls book as we had loved the original, so in front of the fire, cosy under a blanket we read together. It really was as perfect as it sounds and it was one of those moments when I couldn’t believe how lucky and privileged I am to be mum to my gorgeous girl.

Whilst we both missed our boys, it was a treat to have some lovely time together and do all those special little mum daughter things together. I am so proud of my daughter and I loved our exclusive time together.

Snow Days

Published on March 5, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

Over the past few days in the media, there have been some stunning photos taken in our county of the quintessential English snowy dream, picturesque villages and moody sea shots. However, these images don’t convey the reality of living in this idyll in really poor weather. Here is my guide of life in a rural setting in poor weather.

The first day of snow is magical. It is so unexpected as little snow falls at the coast. It is amazing to watch the flakes fall, the hills and fields surrounding the town become dusted white and the joy and excitement of the children captivates and delights all. The children run home from school to make snowmen, throw snowballs in a blizzard of snow and simply squeal and dance in delight. The photos taken from this afternoon will give you the feels for years to come, that look in the childrens’ faces of pure happiness is perfection. We love the snow.
Later in the evening, the reality of the poor weather becomes clear. We are so rural in a very large county that our roads, many minor or country roads have not been treated in advance. Colleagues have had accidents on the way home from work in blizzard conditions. Some have been sat in cars on country roads for 4 hours, others are in rescue centres, others have abandoned their cars and walked, whilst others have been able to turn around and return to work. Suddenly snow is not quite so magical.
The poor road conditions mean that our town is now completely cut off, the emergency services have closed the routes to town due to serious accidents and incidents. There is no chance of gritters tonight, they are focusing on the dual carriage ways which themselves are blocked with accidents, the county is in gridlock. And then along with the snow, the freezing rain starts to fall making difficult conditions, lethal. You are thankful to be safe and warm at home.
A new snow day and whilst the scene looks beautiful and picture perfect the conditions are the worst you have ever seen. The freezing rain and temperatures mean that every surface is now under at least two inches of thick, black ice. There are no vehicles on the roads and the very few people you see trying to gingerly walk along the road all fall. We live on a steep hill and are now house bound, no fun walks for snow ball fights and sledging, we are stuck in our house. Snow is beginning to lose its charm.
Time for some community action, messages on social media ensure that the doctor has a volunteer driver in a 4×4 for urgent home visits, neighbours check on each other, those with the appropriate skills and equipment try to help others. This is the feel good moment, when you are proud of living in a community.
Its time for planning now and careful rationing of food. You start to make calculations of how much milk and bread you can have per day and how to best use the food you have in the house. We have been here before, 7 years ago, so we do have a carton of UHT milk in the cupboard and there is enough food in the fridge and cupboards to feed us comfortably for the days to follow. There’s no panic buying here, simply because nobody can get to the supermarket and we’ll all survive! In our house, we use the time to enjoy preparing warm, filling meals, a parsnip and apple soup, casserole with homemade dumplings. At least the snow days have given us the time to employ a little hygge.
At last, we have some gritters on our road, it is now Friday afternoon and the snow started on Tuesday. Today’s heroes wear high viz vests.
Cabin fever is apparent, Mr S catchphrase ‘Close the door, keep the heat in’ is said on repeat and we have exhausted our family favourite activities, craft, cooking, screen time, movie, table football etc.. The children desperately want to play outside as it looks so gorgeous yet we can’t even go down the steps outside the house because of the ice. We reluctantly conclude that a snow day is only fun if you get to be in the snow. Our entertainment now is carefully watching the temperature slowly rise in percentage points on our thermometer.
As we go to bed we open the back door and start to hear the crackling of the ice, the dripping of water, what a relief. It looks like the forecast is correct and we may get grey, mild and wet weather tomorrow and we’ve never been happier for such a dismal forecast.

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A life in the day, snow and an arctic expedition … #littleloves

Published on March 2, 2018March 13, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

This time last week, I was planning a rather uneventful week, looking forward to World Book day and just the normal rhythm of life. That seems so long ago now, the week proved to be very memorable as we had snow and we never get snow in our little seaside town. Not only did we have blizzards, thick lying snow, we also get the most vicious freezing rain which meant our whole town became an ice rink leaving many of us house bound and then it was high tides too and a temporary flood barrier had to be installed to protect the town, so quite an eventful week thanks to the Beast from the East and Storm Emma! As well as all the drama from the weather, I got sick and had to take time off work, again this never happens, a couple of days in bed did the trick and I’m feeling much better now with just an annoying cough. Despite all the drama of this week I finish this week feeling really positive, sometimes difficult weeks bring out the best in people.

I managed to read a book this week, illness and the weather were conducive to this success. It was a fantastic read, the autobiography of the journalist and writer Hunter Davies. It appeared on my Kindle deal of the day with some rave reviews so I popped it in the basket and what a choice. Davies’ career started in the 60s and continues today so there is a great mix of social history, culture and ‘celebrity’ in the book. Its so easy and entertaining to read, you just want to keep going on to the next chapter. His love for his family and devotion to his wife, the novelist Margaret Forster shine through. It was great to read something different and a non fiction title for a change, variety is the spice of life!

hunter Well this week it was simply about watching the weather, the snow, the skies, the sea all were mesmerising. Until I lived at the seaside I never realised the subtle daily changes in the sea and how it is never the same shade twice. The surf has been incredible on the sea this week and it has been quite hypnotic looking out to the waves. My office looks out onto the sea and there are times I just got lost in the view.

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So the year when I finally aced it for World Book day, we had a snow day at the children’s school! Fortunately all the WBD events are being rearranged so the children will be able to parade in their costumes. I have a bit of bug bear about WBD fancy dress, I like to go old school and do the lets raid the fancy dress box, old clothes and mum’s accessories to create a look. I read an excellent comment that the costume shouldn’t cost more than a book and I’m pleased that we were able to do this, my only expense was £3 for the sequin fabric cut off which I have plans to reuse after WBD.

Little Miss is going as the White witch from the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe. It took a lot to persuade her to wear a dress, this really is not her look at present! For the costume, we made a wardrobe out from an old shoe box, when you open it up the back is a sparkly blue paper and decorated with Welcome to Narnia. Little Miss also decided to make some pompom snow balls from some old wool for her snow, if only we had known we would have had the real thing!

The lion, witch and wardrobe, my 80s Madonna gloves and pompom snowballs.

Little Man was quite reluctant to embrace some of my ideas, he would have been so cute as Paddington, but liked the idea of the Wimpy Kid, so we made a mask for him.

I can honestly say that I have never worn as many clothes as I did on my walk to and from work on Thursday which was the worst day for us. It was so cold, it was only my eyes visible hidden under hats, scarves, layers upon layers. I mistakenly took my glove off to answer my phone and seriously thought i was going to get frost bite, it was so cold. On the way home, I walked through crazy snow conditions, snow, wild winds etc.. it was scary and took 40 minutes rather than the normal 15. As I wrote in my last blog post snow days aren’t an option at our school so we all try really hard to get in. I felt like a proper explorer, ruck sack with supplies, lots of clothes etc..

When I was poorly in bed I listened to a radio 4 play, An Instinct for Kindness, a true story of a woman’s journey to Dignitas. It was superb, sad, thought provoking and very dignified. Its well worth a listen.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b09snwmr

Well after this week its hard to predict what next week will bring… Hopefully the ice will thaw, we’ll get out of the house and all routines will be back in place. I am so over the snow, I like routine, order and predictability!

Thanks to Morgana for hosting #littleloves and i hope all the contributors have had safe, snow weeks.

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Snow Day 2018

Published on March 1, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

So this should have been a little post tonight about World Book day and the fun we had dressing up in our costumes. However, the children never got the opportunity to dress up today as we had a snow day! Snow is really rare where we live and the last significant snow was in our first few months as a family in 2010, so a snow day for the children is a rare treat.

Although for my children a snow day is a treat, for me as a teacher in a special needs school its different. Whilst our day students were not at school today, we are also a residential school so a snow day is not an option for us, we need to open and staff our school. Our students aren’t just students they are our young people, we care for them, we want them to feel safe and secure and when things are different, we need to be there for them. Our staff team have been terrific today and we’re prepared for tomorrow. Things will be a little different as only those staff local will be able to come in, our rural town is currently cut off by road closures. However we have enough staff by people volunteering to do longer hours, coming in on their days off or staying with friends locally to allow them to be on shift as needed. The conditions are so bad here today that every member of staff will need to walk to school tomorrow, but we will and we know there’ll be a hot drink waiting for us when we arrive. It’ll be a fun day, these are the days when everyone pulls together and are the ones we always remember. And, yes we’ll be making snowmen and snow angels and having snowball fights, every child should have the opportunity to experience a snow day at home or at school.

Books, books, books, the Winter Olympics and Pete Tong #littleloves

Published on February 23, 2018February 25, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

Its been a while since I participated in Little Loves. I think I paused as it became the only blog post I was writing and I wanted to try and develop the content of my other posts. However I’ve missed writing it so even if it’s not weekly I’m back on the linkie with a little cultural record of my likes. As it’s been a while I’m going to attempt a bit of a round up of the past few weeks.

Well, I’m really pleased with how much I’ve read recently. I’m not following many series on tv and am using that hour or so when I sit down at 9pm to read. I’ve been reading roughly a book a week and have been rating and reviewing them on my Good Reads account. My favourite has been John Green’s young adult novel Turtles All the Way Down. It’s such a carefully written book about mental health with no neat happy end and a hint of some of the challenges the main character will go on to experience in adulthood. I’ve also read Adele Parks The Stranger in my House, it was a disappointing read only saved (just) by a twist at the end. I thought the characters were a little cliched and some of the storylines weren’t developed well. I’ve become a big fan of read Liane Moriarty book and have enjoyed Three Wishes. She is one of my favourite go to authors at present and whilst her books are common in themes and style, she writes so well and it’s easy to get lost in her books and relish every word. I’m now reading Oprah’s What I Know for Sure , it’s a book of what I imagine were essays in her magazines, they’re easy to read, full of wise advice and are pure Oprah. In addition to my personal reading, Little Miss and I are loving Little Women. It’s dated and a little evangelical in a few parts but oh gosh it still has the effect on me and the female characters are brilliant with some of the scenarios so relatable in today’s society.

After such a full reading section, it’s unsurprising that I haven’t watched much. I’m loving the new series of Call the Midwife, brilliant characters and superb story lines, perfect Sunday evening television. I’m enjoying watching snippets of the Winter Olympics, especially the snow boarding and skiing, the speed and skill are incredible. Unusually I haven’t been to the cinema recently, I really want to see the Greatest Showman but with sport clubs and show rehearsals at the weekend it’s difficult to find the time. Whilst I haven’t visited the cinema, Mr S did take the children to see Early Man on an Inset day which was enjoyed by all.

Its still warming, comfort food this month, homemade casseroles, shepherd pies, savoury tarts. However we have celebrated Shrove Tuesday and we love our little pancake day traditions, making the mix, trying to toss a pancake and choosing our fillings. Each year on Shrove Tuesday we agree we should make pancakes more often and then it’s another year before they’re on the menu again!

This month we’ve made changes to our bedroom as we redecorated it and have finally made it into a little haven for us both to relax and sleep. I love the new colour scheme, blush pink, teal and grey, it all works beautifully together.

An uninspiring category as it’s been so cold, that it’s been layers and layers of winter clothes with no new recent buys. I’m desperate to unpack some of my spring clothes to add that splash of colour and hint of warmer days ahead. As we decorated our room, I did take the opportunity to do a huge purge of my clothes and recycled lots of clothes that have been hidden away in drawers for years. It has felt very therapeutic and now I have a little extra space for some new purchases too! I have organised my clothes as recommended by Marie Kondo in colours, it does make choosing outfits easier and has shown just how many black tops I have, note to self let’s try to buy a different colour!

I’ve been listening to Pete Tong and the Heritage Orchestra’s Ibiza classics nice and loud. This album needs volume to appreciate it and it’s been a great running playlist this month.

Well thats this month of February caught up, I’m so looking forward to spring I want to feel the sun on my face and to lose a few of the layers of clothes. March looks fairly quiet at present, a ballet exam, a couple of school trips and World Book day seem to be the only notable calendar entries. However I am sure that will change as the month progresses.

Thanks to Morgan’s for hosting #littleloves

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February half term

Published on February 22, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

Of all the school holidays in the year, I find the February half term an odd one, it’s not a holiday when a lot happens and pre children it was simply spent pottering and relaxing whilst Mr S worked. Our half term this year was one full of simple pleasures, there was no big day out or special event just local activities. The weather was pretty awful, so cold and wet and this affected our plans too.

As Mr S wanted to decorate our bedroom, I took the children away to my parents for a couple of days at the beginning of the week to give him some time to do the job without distractions. I had great plans and was very excited to have been able to organise for my parents to take the children out so I could visit the big shopping mall with a long list of shopping. Unfortunately I had a horrendous migraine for the days we were at my parents and spent the two days in a darkened room alternating between being sick and sleeping, so not quite my anticipated visit but a lot cheaper! The children loved the day out I had planned for them in Bristol as they got to visit the local Air Hop and try out all the trampolines and rides.

We were back at home for a pancake tea and it was nice to have Shrove Tuesday fall in the holidays as it was more relaxed and fun. I did take the traditional toss a pancake photos, I have one every year of the children and they’ve become one of those measures of the children growing up.

Ash Wednesday was also Valentine’s Day this year. For personal reasons I find it a tough day so whilst Mr S and I do exchange cards and a little gift, we don’t really do anything lovey dovey on this day. The weather was so awful we spent the morning watching the children skoot around in an indoor skate park and then drove out to a pub for a lazy lunch en famille.

Thankfully Thursday was a gorgeous day, the best of the week with bright blue skies and warm sunshine. We ended up on the beach and met lots of friends who had the same idea too. The trip to the beach was one of the highlights of this holiday, watching the children skimming stones with their friends, running up and down the beach and laughing. I have a lovely photo of a whole gang of children balanced on the groyne, the bright colours of their wellies beautifully contrasting the blue skies. Simple pleasures can be the the best.

On Friday we had a few jobs to do over in big town and whilst they were not the most fun for the children we stopped off at the country park on the way home to run off some energy and explore the woods and fields. I do find my children need a good walk or exercise every day to keep them more relaxed and calm.

Whilst most of our week was spent together, I did take both children alone on a mummy date each to a local cafe. Both really appreciated this time together and I learnt a lot of how they’re feeling about things. It’s surprising how chatty the children can be with cake and a hot chocolate!

Although half term was quiet and full of little trips, it was relaxing in it’s own way. Sometimes you just need to stop and enjoy the little things, a trip to the beach, a walk in the park or a homemade cake in a cafe.

A bedroom make over

Published on February 21, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

Last week, we undertook a little house project and decorated our bedroom. Its long overdue and to be honest the room has been a little neglected over the years. It had become a very functional room, simply to sleep and get dressed in and very little else. It simply didn’t convey warmth and cosiness and we spent very little time in it. However we decided it was time to make it into something special and a little haven for us.

Whilst we have redecorated and bought new soft furnishings and carpet, I think one of the biggest changes was decluttering the room, we have recycled and thrown away lots of clothes and ‘things’ which were hidden away in drawers. Its has felt rather cleansing to do this and the room does feel light and airy.

Although we have tidied the room, I also like that I now have on display some things which have always been very special to me and hidden away. I love Rennie McIntosh and bought the McIntosh inspired mirror about 25 years ago on a trip to Glasgow. Its one of those accessories which has followed me to every house I’ve lived in and now it colour coordinates in our room beautifully. On my bedside table I also have this little bud vase in Bath Aqua Glass, I was gifted a beautiful collection of this glassware when I left my school in Bristol and again I love that something which has so many happy memories is now at the heart of my room. To me it is not simply about colour coordination but a warmth and aura created by special objects. I love the William Morris quote to not have anything neither useful or beautiful in your home.

In choosing the colours for our new room, I based it around our new duvet cover from Dunelm! I like the grey and the complementary colours so our new carpet and curtains are dark grey and the walls are painted in Dulux Blush pink with teal soft furnishings. My final touch will be a mustard yellow cushion to finish off the bed and bring all the colours together. Its a simple look but one which I hope will be easy to update regularly over the years.

We are both so pleased with our new bedroom, its a room where we now want to spend time and relax, its clean, tidy and warm and hopefully reflects us.

#ecosparkles2018 : Week 7 : Public Transport

Published on February 16, 2018 by seasidesparkles3 Comments

This week’s ecosparkles is about trying to adopt a commitment to public transport and the limitations living in a small rural town. Whilst I have a car, my weekly mileage is very low, sometimes less than 10 miles a week, our town is small and we live centrally where everything is near and walkable. When I do drive, I am rarely alone in my car, as I’m either with the children or on my commute I share the journey with a colleague. I have my car for when I need to go to big town, a 50 mile round journey or to visit friends and family in other parts of the country. As its been half term this week I have done one of my long journeys and decided to compare the costs.

This week I calculated that to go from our small town, not on the mainline train network to the train station nearest to my parents would have involved a walk, a bus journey and 4 changes on the train making it approximately a 6 hour journey, costing £51.85 for myself and the two children (we have a family rail card)

The same journey in my car, a small eco friendly model, (roughly the model in the calculator below) for 196 miles (return journey) would have cost £16.20, door to door. It is unsurprising that given the cost and convenience I opted for the car journey.

I also decided to calculate my CO2 omission for these two journeys to see if there was a considerable difference, however, both journeys worked out at 0.05 tonnes.

Before moving to our small town, I lived in a large city and public transport was key to travelling. It was reasonable, reliable and regular and we used it, I think this is common in most large cities and towns. There are times when living in a small town can feel quite isolating and transport is one of the significant issues. We have two bus routes which serve our town and both are hourly, it takes more than an hour to travel to the nearest town and to the decent shopping town, ninety minutes. In bad weather, the services are often suspended and in high tourist season, the buses are very popular and you have to be early to get a place. The cost of the journey is high. In the journey I calculated the return journey on bus of approx. 24 miles would have cost for 1 adult and 2 children, £17.40, the train stage of approx. 174 miles was £34.45, thus the bus is 72.5p a mile, the train less than 20p a mile and the car 8p.

As a family, we like travelling by train and we have a nice route which takes us to a number of resorts and shopping towns, from our nearest station we can even get to London on a direct train! We do have a family railcard and do enjoy little days out on the train, driving the 12 miles to the station and using the car park, before hopping on the train. However we rarely use the bus for its price and poor timetabling. Even in this challenge to try and make our family life more ecological friendly, I can’t make the full switch to public transport yet.

Whilst I’m not able to commit to public transport, I would like to offer a few suggestions on how I would be more open to using the bus. Firstly, fares need to be so much cheaper to make them family friendly. The routes could be streamlined, our buses go to every village, with a double decker winding round country lanes, why not have smaller buses more frequently, offering direct services to towns and a separate stop all service too for those wishing a more scenic journey. The sadness with the trains is that we used to have a thriving train station in town, but it was one closed after the Beeching report in the 1960s.

Despite my reservations about public transport, I am trying to minimise car journeys this year and to try and share such journeys. I have a small car and would love to look into a more eco friendly car in the future (electric?), however my car’s emissions are low enough for me not to have to pay car tax and it is economical, so I like to think it has some green credentials.

Public transport can be so good and efficient, its just sad that many small towns and villages are poorly served by such services and that there is a genuine need for a car. There does need to be more commitment to rural communities in transport infrastructure planning.

Resources

https://www.theguardian.com/environment/interactive/2009/oct/20/guardian-quick-carbon-calculator

https://www.fleetnews.co.uk/costs/fuel-cost-calculator/

http://www.co2balance.com/

#ecosparkles2018 : Week 6

Published on February 8, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

I was thinking this week that some of this project is not about doing but not doing. For example, I love glossy magazines but I started to think about the energy costs involved for what these days sometimes seems to be adverts and not quality pieces. It occurred to me that blogs are filling that void with interesting, relevant posts and do I need to have the magazines? So one of my eco activities has been not to buy any of this month’s glossy magazines. When I was in town last week I found myself really questioning my need for products, I bought what I needed but didn’t succumb to any other purchases. Here are more of my ecosparkles this week .

This week I have been looking at seasonal foods, rather than choose a recipe and then go shopping I did it the other way. I chose seasonal vegetables and then looked up a recipe in my cookery bible, Good Housekeeping. The parsnip and potato rosti was gorgeous, who would have thought of nutmeg with those vegetables? I’ve also bought this poster to display in my kitchen to promote seasonal eating. https://www.lizcookcharts.co.uk/seasonal-uk-fruit-and-vegetable-chart.html
It was time to tidy up this week and I took all the out of date and used medicines to the chemist to be disposed of safely and not harm our environment in landfill.
I have been looking at food packaging carefully. We have lots of small independent shops in our town who do use paper bags and I always try to use these shops. Sadly there is no independent grocer and no food market until Easter so vegetables and fruit can be quite packaged in the supermarket. I’m finding myself frustrated with trying to prepare a green lunch, my pleas to return the tin foil have varied results. However I have found these beeswax sandwich covers to try. https://www.asliceofgreen.co.uk/food-wraps-and-bags/robots-large-baggie.html

Creating Childhood Memories

Published on February 6, 2018 by seasidesparklesLeave a comment

The above is from a tweet which went viral this week and which I have thought about a lot. I think its simplicity in a digital world is a poignant reminder of what is important to our children. It also reminded me that it is not material possessions which are remembered but a feeling of being loved, involved and belonging.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what makes my children happy, its always the simple things, playing at the skate park or on the beach, baking cakes and licking the bowl, having a movie afternoon cuddled up on the sofa, a kick around in the garden. It is often about just being in the moment and doing something as a family or with friends.

Before I became a mum, I knew the type of mum I wanted to be, most of it based on the opposite to my own childhood, which whilst not unhappy was quite chaotic. I wanted to be a present mum, happy in myself and happy being mum.

When we realised that we would become parents through adoption, I understood through my professional background the importance of secure attachment. We have worked hard to create a secure feeling for our children. Whilst I recognise how lucky we are to be able to do what we have done, thanks to understanding bosses, reassessing our priorities etc.. our family has always been at the heart of all our decisions. Its been a journey of trial and error but we now both work part time to ensure that one of us is always there for the school runs, we’re always early so the children never have to fear being left behind and at least one of us is always there for every concert, assembly, sports day, nativity etc.. to wave and encourage. At home, we always sit down to meals together where we talk, we make plans as a family and plot it on our calendar, we constantly reassure the children that we are their forever family and that they will always have a home with us even when we’re doddery, old pensioners. There are so many other little things we do too, all we want is for our children to have that indescribable feeling of being, loved, wanted and belonging.

When I look at the second tweet, I’m quite proud that actually the children do a lot of what’s on the list. I hope we set an example of being kind to not just friends and family but to all. We read books; even at nearly 9 and 10 years old, we always read a story to the children every night and I really don’t ever want to stop this. We spend a lot of time together as a family, but also have started to allow the children more independence (scary but essential) Fortunately living at the seaside we’re at the beach a lot, there is nothing quite like collecting the children from school and walking to the beach until early evening, its like a mini holiday on a school day! There’s also a lot of ice cream shops at the seaside so I think we can confidently tick that one off too.

I hope my children will look back to their childhood with happy memories of sunny days on the beach, ice creams, dancing with mummy in the kitchen, helping daddy in the garden and many family adventures.

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